EAllusion wrote:Every woman I know who breastfed had to pump, because they also work, which was ridiculously inconvenient. I'm not sure any of them would've appreciated someone extolling the virtues of convienance while they had a machine hooked up to their breasts in a car on their lunch break.
At first I thought maybe this is just a bias for Mormon influenced stay at home Mom culture. Then I remembered two women I know talking about latching problems that led to use of nipple shields that led to clamping issues that were so bad they said it was like their nipples were being stabbed with sharp knives every day.
If you talked about their attitude problems, I'm not saying I'd approve of your murder, but I'd understand it.
I think that there is some loading of the word, 'attitude', by any given reader, that will then color how they're interpreting the comment.
To draw an analogy - the question of 'attitude' can be applied to choosing to run
for physical fitness. Why would anyone
run? It's inconvenient. It's time consuming. You probably have to wear some stupid-looking shoes. The activity is replete with potential problems such as knee pain, shin splints, muscle cramps or related injuries. If you're trying to be consistent with it, you'll probably find yourself running in some places that are unfamiliar or at times and in weather that isn't amenable to it.
So, why bother to run, when there are other options for staying fit? Ask a runner and their reasoning will either end up making sense to you, or might just sound as if it's 'selfish' or faulty. Regardless, it works for the runner, and the runner has adjusted their attitude
to deal or cope with the very real issues that accompany the activity. For better or worse, they see more benefit than inconvenience with the whole program and have made the active choice to stick to it.
But, you're probably thinking at this point, "Wait - every woman who has a child has to feed that child... every
woman has to run
". And you're correct - having a baby, and then not feeding it, is generally considered to be bad form
. So, every woman that chooses to have a child also has to 'run'. But here again is a choice that can be made. One can choose between running outside, or purchasing a treadmill. Maybe do both, if that works. But although the two are basically the same in function, the benefits of either are not equal, the potential for problems with either exists, and there will always be certain tangible or intangible benefits of one that cannot be reproduced by the other. Again, attitude and situation affect this.
It's absolutely true that having an infant treat your nipple like an enthusiastic puppy mauling a chew toy
is not a happy experience. Nor is finding yourself in an outside or work setting and having to deal with the possibility of other folks glaring at you for daring to breastfeed in public, even with your child discreetly shieded by a cowl or somesuch. But these are inconveniences that are preferred by some, over having to otherwise deal with mixing, carrying, chilling, hauling and cleaning formula bottles. And breastfeeding provides a unique manifestation of the mother-child bond. It's not a bad thing to want to experience that.
There will always be some folks for whom - for some reason or another - breastfeeding doesn't work out. Maybe there are latching issues, or health issues. Maybe the baby is picky and uncooperative. Maybe the whole exercise is just too darn inconvenient, in part because American society still typically reacts to public breastfeeding as it it were some sort of terrible social faux pas
and the typical work setting that many mothers exist within doesn't provide for or believe in any support for it. In those situations, formula is a godsend. But if the choice exists, and breastfeeding is a viable option, then I don't see that the practice should be discouraged by an industry that would prefer mothers to pay for their manufactured option rather than explore the mother's own.