Dr. Shades wrote:This wasn't the takeaway, but now I'm curious. . . why did you take your kids to LDS sacrament meeting when you were neither Mormon nor happily married to one?
A good friend (bishopric 2nd counselor's wife) had invited me to her new baby's blessing. I specifically asked her about then-husband's church attendance as I wanted to avoid an awkward run-in with him. She said he hadn't attended in months.
Then-husband wasn't there when the service got started, either, so I got settled in and relaxed. I sat in the front row with my friend. My infant son was getting peckish by the end of the blessing, so once the blessing was over, I stood up to take my son to the mother's room and nurse him. That's when I spotted then-husband and his mistress sitting in the back row. I couldn't believe it. Apparently he had gone to her (Protestant) church the week before and now she was coming to his. They were repeating all of the steps he had gone through with me when we were first dating.
As if that wasn't bad enough, I came back from the mother's room and he had his arm around her. Most people in the ward didn't even know we were having issues. Would have been way too early to be introducing someone new to our old social circles even if it hadn't been an affair, but my ex knew how to take "tacky" to levels Weird Al could only dream of.
I'd originally planned on going to all three meetings and then staying for the ward pot luck, but then-husband began loudly introducing her to everyone as his "girlfriend" and said he'd be staying for the pot luck, so I gave my friends the food I'd brought and got the hell out of there.
Last year, I was having dinner with my friend and her husband (who had since become the bishop of that ward). He said to me that after I left that day, he pulled my husband aside and said, "Hey [name], you know you're still married, right?" That really pissed the XH off, but I got a good laugh. My friend's husband is a good guy; the only person who'd make a better bishop for that ward is his wife. Had he been the bishop, I think my XH might have actually been disciplined.
Res Ipsa wrote:If I look up "asshole" in the dictionary, will I find his picture? Sheesh!!
Trust me, that's just the brown tip of the s*** iceberg he rammed into me. It will all be in the memoir I'm writing.