Jesse Pinkman wrote:What I find unfortunate is that I don't see the Church ever making a significant change in this area. One on one bishop interviews are too ingrained in the overall LDS Church culture.
I wholeheartedly agree that this needs to change. I'm just hard pressed to see how that change can happen, particularly since the Church is in denial that there is even a problem.
The only way I see a change possibly taking place is if every current LDS parent takes a stand, and insists that their children not attend these interviews. Of course, the backlash ends up falling on the kids in that case because they are denied callings, denied being allowed to go on youth temple trips, etc.
I think the best male role models I had in the LDS church were the ones who happily participated in the Scouting program. These were men of good character and were adventurous in spirit. They created opportunities for us to challenge ourselves and were pretty good mentors. That's exactly what I needed as a young male learning how to be in this world. I didn't need a dude pressing me for details about character 'flaws'. I needed to be mentored, led, guided in the ways of the world - finances, education, social situations, leisure, personal development, etc.
I don't think any organization can every really get away from bad leadership. We're talking about human beings after all. The problem is the organizational philosophy itself; that the Spirit will help a fallible man intuit the needs of his flock.
That's just nonsense.
Anecdotally, I can relate how the Church operates as being on par with military leadership. It really is a 'leadership roulette', and the idea that being set apart and led by the Spirit is complete and utter bull crap when it comes to the church. The idea behind leaders in the military, especially on the enlisted side, is that they have time and experience within your given field, within the military structure, and that they can pass on lessons learned, mentor younger Soldiers, and better the overall organization based off their earned experience.
When you take men and thrust them into a position of power, authority, or responsibility that is abstract, that deals with emotional vulnerability, and they have NO EXPERIENCE within that given field you're really setting yourself up for all sorts of problems. You make a man a leader who may have virtually zero experience, for example, with the female perspective on life and her particular challenges, and you're going to get a trainwreck unless the female accepts total emotional domination by the authority figure, and then you still get a trainwreck. This is precisely why the Relief Society was originally created, so that women could lead women, and mentor one another in the ways of female reality, because of their shared experiences. It was supposed to be on par with the priesthood.
The Church is toxic because it's a rigid system set up to extract resources from its membership within a narrow set of values that isn't designed to be responsive to its members' needs. It's a business, but it's not a people business. And while we see, so clearly, for the need to change, I don't see it changing its business model until its bottom line is threatened. Until those legacy families and their sources of income are drying up, they aren't going to change until they absolutely must.
We'll see how it goes...
- Doc